when you need, a shoulder to cry on

sometimes, when you read my blog,
me and my friends, colleagues, and the what’s not,
have you ever wondered, how truly closed we are?
just by looking at those pictures, our smiley faces, and those heavily edited pictures,
each and every one of them, whom i would call my friends.

i have to say, i am very much selective when i called my friends – ‘ friends ‘. its not just some label that you can place on someone, just because you have a good working relationship or communication skills with. NO. i don’t necessary regard you as my friend, just because we work together in a team, and we appear to be closed. it takes more than just being good working colleagues to be called as friends.

i don’t necessary called any tom dick or harry my friends. to me, the definition of a friend, is someone who is there, when you need them. someone who is willing to hear you out, give you a listening ear, a shoulder for you to cry on. someone who is there at times when you are happy, but will stick to you, at your saddest times.

if i have to pick those who i would label as friends, i would definitely have a list. like i’ve mentioned earlier, at times, in a working place, a good colleague does not necessarily means he / she will make a good friend, and a good friend does not make a good working colleague either. i would have to add, there are people at my working place, who i’m confident that i would call them, a friend…

someone once told me, that he would not mind picking me up and even meeting me at the very odd hours, if i truly needed his help at that point of time. so far, only 2 friends had caught me cry before, and it was one of my darkest moment. my best friend, adlios was there when i needed someone, and he will always be there, be it good or bad.

and the other person who saw me cried was my x sidekick, when i was having problems with my relationship back then. sometimes, a friend does not necessary need to be there for you, and telling you what to do when you are at your vulnerable side. a good friend, is there to listen to you, and he might or not give you his intake and views about your problems.

so, how do you measure someone when you call him / her your friend? its not that easy. i don’t necessary called my colleagues my friends. i will just introduced them as a colleague from work, or he’s working for my team, or he is my nsf medic… or he’s my driver.

but when a colleague is my friend, i will emphasis,

” this is my friend xyz and he works with me, and we are from the same team… “

like what the old people saying,
‘ a friend in need, is a friend in deed! ‘